I Am A Woman, And There Is More To Me Than My Sexuality.

"I am a book whose cover is judged and I am a human being whose sexuality is never her own and I am every woman you've ever encountered. I am not here for your sexual pleasure or sexual understanding or to adhere to the standard you've deemed sexually appropriate. My sexuality is not yours to define or judge or discard yet it is here, for your judgement and definition and discarding pleasure. My sexuality is me, yet I am so much more than my sexuality." - Danielle Campoamor

The irony and sadness of the reality that rings in the tone of the paragraph above is a subject I feel so strongly towards, as a woman, as a sister, as a cousin to beautiful girls growing up, and possibly one day as a mother to my own beautiful children. "I am a woman. And there is more to me than my sexuality." We don't owe it to anybody to be sexy, to be pretty, to be attractive. Our sexuality is our own. It is there to make ourselves feel good, it is not there to be flaunted for the approval or appraisal or validation from others. And even with our sexuality, there is so much more to us.

Unfortunately for so long now we have experienced the over sexualisation of the human body whereby media, advertising and society tells us that to become worth anything we have to show more skin, we have to pose in positions that are provocative and play out acts of sexual nature just to get the attention of a man or the attention of the public as if we have nothing else going for us. We see the rise of this in image based social media more than ever before.

Sex is a natural human desire but it has been used as a marketing tool and we have lost the beauty, the love and the respect that goes with it. Little girls are growing up being taught that wearing mini skirts or near to nothing will win her success or seek the attention of the boy she likes faster. Women use lustful actions with manipulation to capture the opposite sex with every wrong or harmful desire.

We should raise every human being to know their true potential, their true capabilities, putting them in a position of true confidence, happiness and fulfilment to know their true worth. Without oppression and more equality we can hopefully eradicate this imbalance of how a true man sees a woman, how a true woman sees herself and how women see men.

The human body is a temple deserving of Love and respect. It is our home and as the great Charlie Chaplin once wrote to his beautiful daughter Geraldine in a letter: "Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul."

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